In1867wecanreadaccountofherculeanlaborthesecond。TwentythousandtractsareneededtoconvertthevotersofKansastowomansuffrage。TravelingexpensestoKansas,andthetracts,makethedebtorcolumnoverreachthecreditorsometwothousanddollars。Thereisrecognitiononthesepagesofmorethanonethousanddollarsobtainedbysolicitingadvertisements,butnonoteismadeoftheweary,burningJulydaysspentinthestreetsofNewYorktoprocurethismoney,norofthereadyapplicationofthesavingsmadebypettyeconomiesfromhersalaryfromtheHoveyCommittee。
Itwouldhavebeenfortunateformybravefriend,ifcash-books1868,1869,and1870hadnevercomedownfromtheirshelves;fortheysingandsing,innotesofdebts,tillalluniteinonevastchorusoffarmorethantenthousanddollars。ThesewerethedaysoftheRevolution,thenewspaper,notthewar,thoughitwaswarfareforthedebt-riddenmanager。
Severalthousanddollarsshepaidwithmoneyearnedbylecturing,andwithmoneygivenherforpersonaluse。OneThanksgivingwas,intruth,atimeforreturningthanks;forshereceived,canceled,fromhercousin,AnsonLapham,hernoteforfourthousanddollars。AfterthefuneralofPaulinaWrightDavis,thebereavedwidowerpressedintoMissAnthony\'shandcancelednotesforfivehundreddollars,bearingonthebackthewords,“Inmemoryofmybelovedwife。“Oneothernotewascanceledinrecognitionofherperfectforgetfulnessofself-interestandreadysacrificetotheneedsofothers。Whenlaboring,in1874,to,filleveryengagement,inordertomeetherdebts,hermother\'ssuddenillnesscalledherhome。Withoutoneselfishregret,theanxiousdaughterhastenedtoRochester。Whenrecoverywascertain,andMissAnthonywasabouttoreturntoherfatiguinglabors,hermothergaveher,atparting,hernoteforathousanddollars,onwhichwaswritten,intremblinglines,“Injustconsiderationofthetendersacrificemadetonursemeinsevereillness。“AtlastalltheRevolutiondebtwaspaid,exceptthatduetohergeneroussister,MaryAnthony,whousedoftenhumorouslytoassurehershewasafitsubjectforthebankruptact。
ThereissomethinghumorouslypatheticinthedeathoftheRevolution杢hatfirstbornofMissAnthony。Mrs。LauraCurtisBullardgenerouslyassumedthecareofthetroublesomechild,and,inordertomaketheadoptionlegal,gavetheusualconsideration杘nedollar。TheverynightofthetransferMissAnthonywenttoRochesterwiththedollarinherpocket,andthelittlechangeleftafterpurchasingherticket。Shearrivedsafelywithherdebts,butnothingmore杊erpockethadbeenpicked!Oh,thief,couldyoubutknowwhatvalueoffaithfulworkyoupurloined!
Fromthecloseoftheyear1876MissAnthony\'saccountsshowedfavorablesignsastothecreditcolumn。Indeed,attheendoffiveyearstherewasasolidbalanceofseveralthousanddollarsearnedonlecturingtours。
Butalas!theaccountsgrowdimagain杋nfactthecreditcolumnfadesaway。
“TheHistoryofWomanSuffrage“ruthlesslyswallowedupeveryvestigeofMissAnthony\'sbankaccount。But,in1886,bythewillofMrs。Eddy,daughterofFrancisJacksonofBoston,MissAnthonyreceivedtwenty-fourthousanddollarsfortheWoman\'sSuffrageMovement,whichliftedheroutofdebtoncemore。
Invainwillyousearchthesetelltalebooksforevidenceofpersonalextravagance;for,althoughMissAnthonythinksittrueeconomytobuythebest,hertastesaresimple。Istherenotsomethingverytouchinginthefactthatsheneverboughtabookorpictureforherownenjoyment?
Themeagerpersonalbalance-sheetsshowfourlapsesfromdiscipline,杔apsesthatsheevennowregardsasruthlessextravagance,杤iz。:thepurchaseoftwoinexpensivebrooches,amuchneededwatch,andapairofcuffstomatchapoint-lacecollarpresentedbyafriend。ThoseinterestedinMissAnthony\'spersonalappearancelongagoceasedtotrustherwiththepurchase-moneyforanyornament;for,howeverfirmherresolutiontocomplywiththeirwish,thecheckinvariablyfounditswaytothecreditcolumnofthoselittlecash-booksas“moneyreceivedforthecause。“Now,reader,youhavebeenadmittedtoaprivateviewofMissAnthony\'sfinancialrecords,andyoucanappreciateherdevotiontoanidea。Doyounotagreewithmethata“bread-winner“canbeaconscientiousreformer?
InfinishingthissketchofthemostintimatefriendIhavehadforthepastforty-fiveyears,杦ithwhomIhavespentweeksandmonthsunderthesameroof,朓cantrulysaythatsheisthemostupright,courageous,self-sacrificing,magnanimoushumanbeingIhaveeverknown。Ihaveseenherbesetoneverysidewiththemostpettyannoyances,ridiculedandmisrepresented,slanderedandpersecuted;Ihaveknownwomenrefusetotakeherextendedhand;womentowhomshepresentedcopiesof“TheHistoryofWomanSuffrage,“
returnitunnoticed;otherstokeepitwithoutonewordofacknowledgment;
otherstowritemostinsultinglettersinanswertohersofaffectionateconciliation。Andyet,underallthecross-firesincidenttoareform,neverhasherhopeflagged,herself-respectwavered,orafeelingofresentmentshadowedhermind。Oftentimes,whenIhavebeensorelydiscouraged,thinkingthattheprolongedstrugglewasawasteofforcewhichinotherdirectionsmightberichinachievement,withhersublimefaithinhumanity,shewouldbreatheintomysoulrenewedinspiration,saying,“Pityratherthanblamethosewhopersecuteus。“Socloselyinterwovenhavebeenourlives,ourpurposes,andexperiencesthat,separated,wehaveafeelingofincompleteness杣nited,suchstrengthofself-assertionthatnoordinaryobstacles,difficulties,ordangerseverappeartousinsurmountable。ReviewingthelifeofSusanB。Anthony,IeverlikenhertotheDoriccolumninGrecianarchitecture,sosimply,sograndlyshestands,freefromeveryextraneousornament,supportingheronevastidea杢heenfranchisementofwoman。
Asourestimateofourselvesandourfriendshipmaydiffersomewhatfromthattakenfromanobjectivepointofview,IwillgiveanextractfromwhatourcommonfriendTheodoreTiltonwroteofusin1868:
“MissSusanB。Anthony,awell-known,indefatigable,andlifelongadvocateoftemperance,anti-slavery,andwoman\'srights,hasbeen,since1851,Mrs。Stanton\'sintimateassociateinreformatorylabors。Thesecelebratedwomenareofaboutequalage,butofthemostoppositecharacteristics,andillustratethetheoryofcounterpartsinaffectionbyentertainingforeachotherafriendshipofextraordinarystrength。
“Mrs。Stantonisafinewriter,butapoorexecutant;MissAnthonyisathoroughmanager,butapoorwriter。Bothhavelargebrainsandgreathearts;neitherhasanyselfishambitionforcelebrity;buteachvieswiththeotherinanobleenthusiasmforthecausetowhichtheyaredevotingtheirlives。
“Nevertheless,todescribethemcritically,Ioughttosaythat,oppositesthoughtheybe,eachdoesnotsomuchsupplementtheother\'sdeficienciesasaugmenttheother\'seccentricities。Thustheyoftenstimulateeachother\'saggressiveness,and,atthesametime,diminisheachother\'sdiscretion。
“But,whatevermaybetheimprudentutterancesoftheoneortheimpoliticmethodsoftheother,theanimatingmotivesofbothareevermoreaswhiteasthelight。Thegoodthattheydoisbydesign;theharmbyaccident。
Thesetwowomen,sittingtogetherintheirparlors,have,forthelastthirtyyears,beendiligentforgersofallmannerofprojectiles,fromfireworkstothunderbolts,andhavehurledthemwithunexpectedexplosionintothemidstofallmannerofeducational,reformatory,religious,andpoliticalassemblies;sometimestothepleasantsurpriseandhalfwelcomeofthemembers,moreoftentothebewildermentandprostrationofnumerousvictims;and,inafewsignalinstances,tothegnashingofangrymen\'steeth。Iknowofnotwomorepertinaciousincendiariesinthewholecountry。
Norwilltheythemselvesdenythecharge。Infactthisnoise-makingtwainarethetwosticksofadrum,keepingupwhatDanielWebstercalled\'Therub-a-dubofagitation。\'“ChapterXII。ChapterXII。CHAPTERXII。MYFIRSTSPEECHBEFOREALEGISLATURE。
WOMENhadbeenwillingsolongtoholdasubordinateposition,bothinprivateandpublicaffairs,thatagraduallygrowingfeelingofrebellionamongthemquiteexasperatedthemen,andtheirmanifestationsofhostilityinpublicmeetingswereoftenasridiculousashumiliating。
True,thosegentlemenwereallquitewillingthatwomenshouldjointheirsocietiesandchurchestodothedrudgery;toworkuptheenthusiasminfairsandrevivals,conventionsandflagpresentations;topayadollarapieceintotheirtreasuryforthehonorofbeingmembersoftheirvariousorganizations;tobegmoneyfortheChurch;tocirculatepetitionsfromdoortodoor;tovisitsaloons;topraywithordefyrumsellers;toteachschoolathalfprice,andsitroundtheoutskirtsofahall,inteachers\'
Stateconventions,likesomanywallflowers;buttheywouldnotallowthemtositontheplatform,addresstheassembly,orvoteformenandmeasures。
ThosewhohadlearnedthefirstlessonsofhumanrightsfromthelipsofHenryB。Stanton,SamuelJ。May,andGerritSmithwouldnotacceptanysuchposition。Whenwomenabandonedthetemperancereform,allinterestinthequestiongraduallydiedoutintheState,andpracticallynothingwasdoneinNewYorkfornearlytwentyyears。GerritSmithmadeoneortwoattemptstowardan“anti-dramshop“party,but,aswomencouldnotvote,theyfeltnointerestinthemeasure,andfailurewastheresult。
IsoonconvincedMissAnthonythattheballotwasthekeytothesituation;
thatwhenwehadavoiceinthelawsweshouldbewelcometoanyplatform。
Inturningtheintenseearnestnessandreligiousenthusiasmofthisgreat-souledwomanintothischannel,Isoonfeltthepowerofmyconvertingoadingmeforeverforwardtomoreuntiringwork。Soonfastened,hearttoheart,withhooksofsteelinafriendshipthatyearsofconfidenceandaffectionhavesteadilystrengthened,wehavelaboredfaithfullytogether。
Fromtheyear1850conventionswereheldinvariousStates,andtheirrespectivelegislatureswerecontinuallybesieged;NewYorkwasthoroughlycanvassedbyMissAnthonyandothers。Appeals,callsformeetings,andpetitionswerecirculatedwithoutnumber。In1854IpreparedmyfirstspeechfortheNewYorklegislature。Thatwasagreateventinmylife。Ifeltsonervousoverit,lestitshouldnotbeworthytheoccasion,thatMissAnthonysuggestedthatIshouldslipuptoRochesterandsubmitittotheRev。WilliamHenryChanning,whowaspreachingthereatthattime。Ididso,andhisopinionwassofavorableastothemeritsofmyspeechthatIfeltquitereassured。Myfatherfeltequallynervouswhenhesaw,bytheAlbanyEveningJournal,thatIwastospeakattheCapitol,andaskedmetoreadmyspeechtohimalso。Accordingly,IstoppedatJohnstownonmywaytoAlbany,and,lateoneevening,whenhewasaloneinhisoffice,Ienteredandtookmyseatontheoppositesideofhistable。Onnooccasion,beforeorsince,wasIevermoreembarrassed朼naudienceofone,andthattheoneofallotherswhoseapprobationImostdesired,whosedisapprovalImostfeared。Iknewhecondemnedthewholemovement,andwasdeeplygrievedattheactivepartIhadtaken。HenceIwasfullyawarethatIwasabouttoaddressawhollyunsympatheticaudience。However,Ibegan,withadoggeddeterminationtogiveallthepowerIcouldtomymanuscript,andnottobediscouragedorturnedfrommypurposebyanytenderappealsoradversecriticisms。Idescribedthewidowinthefirsthoursofhergrief,subjecttotheintrusionsofthecoarseminionsofthelaw,takinginventoryofthehouseholdgoods,oftheoldarmchairinwhichherlovedonehadbreathedhislast,oftheoldclockinthecornerthattoldthehourhepassedaway。
IthrewallthepathosIcouldintomyvoiceandlanguageatthispoint,and,tomyintensesatisfaction,Isawtearsfillingmyfather\'seyes。
IcannotexpresstheexultationIfelt,thinkingthatnowhewouldsee,withmyeyes,theinjusticewomensufferedunderthelawsheunderstoodsowell。
FeelingthatIhadtouchedhisheartIwentonwithrenewedconfidence,and,whenIhadfinished,Isawhewasthoroughlymagnetized。WithbeatingheartIwaitedforhimtobreakthesilence。Hewasevidentlydeeplyponderingoverallhehadheard,anddidnotspeakforalongtime。IbelievedI
hadopenedtohimanewworldofthought。Hehadlistenedlongtothecomplaintsofwomen,butfromthelipsofhisowndaughtertheyhadcomewithadeeperpathosandpower。Atlast,turningabruptly,hesaid:“Surelyyouhavehadahappy,comfortablelife,withallyourwantsandneedssupplied;
andyetthatspeechfillsmewithself-reproach;foronemightnaturallyask,howcanayoungwoman,tenderlybroughtup,whohashadnobitterpersonalexperience,feelsokeenlythewrongsofhersex?Wheredidyoulearnthislesson?”“Ilearnedithere,“Ireplied,“inyouroffice,whenachild,listeningtothecomplaintswomenmadetoyou。Theywhohavesympathyandimaginationtomakethesorrowsofotherstheirowncanreadilylearnallthehardlessonsoflifefromtheexperienceofothers。““Well,well!”
hesaid,“youhavemadeyourpointsclearandstrong;butIthinkIcanfindyouevenmorecruellawsthanthoseyouhavequoted。“Hesuggestedsomeimprovementsinmyspeech,lookedupotherlaws,anditwasoneo\'clockinthemorningbeforewekissedeachothergood-night。HowhefeltonthequestionafterthatIdonotknow,asheneversaidanythinginfavoroforagainstit。HegladlygavemeanyhelpIneeded,fromtimetotime,inlookingupthelaws,andwasverydesirousthatwhateverIgavetothepublicshouldbecarefullyprepared。
MissAnthonyprintedtwentythousandcopiesofthisaddress,laiditonthedeskofeverymemberofthelegislature,bothintheAssemblyandSenate,and,inhertravelsthatwinter,shecirculateditthroughouttheState。IamhappytosayIneverfeltsoanxiousaboutthefateofaspeechsince。
Thefirstwoman\'sconventioninAlbanywasheldatthistime,andwehadakindofprotractedmeetingfortwoweeksafter。Therewereseveralhearingsbeforebothbranchesofthelegislature,andasuccessionofmeetingsinAssociationHall,inwhichPhillips,Channing,ErnestineL。Rose,AntoinetteL。Brown,andSusanB。Anthonytookpart。BeingatthecapitaloftheState,discussionwasarousedateveryfireside,whilethecommentsofthepresswerenumerousandvaried。Everylittlecountrypaperhadsomethingwittyorsillytosayabouttheuprisingofthe“strong-minded。“Thoseeditorswhoseheadswereaboutthesizeofanapplewerethemostopposedtotheuprisingofwomen,illustratingwhatSidneySmithsaidlongago:“Therealwayswas,andtherealwayswillbeaclassofmensosmallthat,ifwomenwereeducated,therewouldbenobodyleftbelowthem。“Poorhumannaturelovestohavesomethingtolookdownupon!
Hereisaspecimenofthewaysucheditorstalkedatthattime。TheAlbanyRegister,inanarticleon“Woman\'sRightsintheLegislature,“
datedMarch7,1854,says:
“Whilethefemininepropagandistsofwomen\'srightsconfinedthemselvestotheexhibitionofshortpetticoatsandlong-leggedboots,andtotheholdingofconventionsandspeech-makinginconcertrooms,thepeopleweredisposedtobeamusedbythem,astheyarebythewitoftheclowninthecircus,ortheperformancesofPunchandJudyonfairdays,ortheminstrelsyofgentlemenwithblackenedfaces,onbanjos,thetambourine,andbones。
Butthejokeisbecomingstale。Peoplearegettingcloyedwiththeseperformances,andarelookingforsomehealthierandmoreintellectualamusement。Theludicrousiswearingaway,anddisgustistakingtheplaceofpleasurablesensations,arisingfromthenoveltyofthisnewphaseofhypocrisyandinfidelfanaticism。
“Peoplearebeginningtoinquirehowfarpublicsentimentshouldsanctionortoleratetheseunsexedwomen,whowouldstepoutfromthetruesphereofthemother,thewife,andthedaughter,andtakinguponthemselvesthedutiesandthebusinessofmen,stalkintothepublicgaze,and,byengaginginthepolitics,theroughcontroversiesandtraffickingoftheworld,upheaveexistinginstitutions,andoverrunallthesocialrelationsoflife。
“Itisamelancholyreflectionthat,amongourAmericanwomen,whohavebeeneducatedtobetterthings,thereshouldbefoundanywhoarewillingtofollowtheleadofsuchforeignpropagandistsastheringleted,glovedexotic,ErnestineL。Rose。WecanunderstandhowsuchamanastheRev。
Mr。May,orthesleek-headedDr。Channing,maybedeludedbyherintobecomingoneofherdisciples。Theyarenotthefirstinstancesofinfatuationthatmayovertakeweak-mindedmen,iftheyarehonestintheirdevotiontoherandherdoctrines;norwouldtheybethefirstexamplesofalowambitionthatseeksnotorietyasasubstitutefortruefame,iftheyaredishonest。
Suchmentherearealways,and,honestordishonest,theirtruepositionisthatofbeingtiedtotheapronstringsofsomestrong-mindedwoman,andtobeexhibitedasrarespecimensofhumanwickednessorhumanweaknessandfolly。ButthatoneeducatedAmericanshouldbecomeherdiscipleandfollowherinsaneteachingsisamarvel。“
Whenweseetheabuseandridiculetowhichthebestofmenweresubjectedforstandingonourplatformintheearlydays,weneednotwonderthatsofewhavebeenbraveenoughtoadvocateourcauseinlateryears,eitherinconventionsorinthehallsoflegislation。
Aftertwelveaddedyearsofagitation,followingthepassageofthePropertyBill,NewYorkconcededothercivilrightstomarriedwomen。Pendingthediscussionofthesevariousbills,SusanB。Anthonycirculatedpetitions,bothforthecivilandpoliticalrightsofwomen,throughouttheState,travelinginstagecoaches,openwagons,andsleighsinallseasons,andonfoot,fromdoortodoorthroughtownsandcities,doingheruttermosttorousewomentosomesenseoftheirnaturalrightsashumanbeings,andtotheircivilandpoliticalrightsascitizensofarepublic。Andwhileexpendinghertime,strength,andmoneytosecuretheseblessingsforthewomenoftheState,theywouldgrufflytellherthattheyhadalltherightstheywanted,orrudelyshutthedoorinherface;leavinghertostandoutside,petitioninhand,treatingherwithasmuchcontemptasifshewasaskingalmsforherself。Nonebutthosewhodidthatworkintheearlydays,fortheslavesandthewomen,caneverknowthehardshipsandhumiliationsthatwereendured。Butitwasdonebecauseitwasonlythroughpetitions朼
powerseeminglysoinefficient杢hatdisfranchisedclassescouldbeheardintheStateandNationalcouncils;hencetheirimportance。
Thefrivolousobjectionssomewomenmadetoourappealswereasexasperatingastheywereridiculous。Toreplytothempolitely,atalltimes,requiredadivinepatience。Ononeoccasion,afteraddressingthelegislature,someoftheladies,incongratulatingme,inquired,inadeprecatingtone,“Whatdoyoudowithyourchildren?”“Ladies,“Isaid,“ittakesmenolongertospeak,thanyoutolisten;whathaveyoudonewithyourchildrenthetwohoursyouhavebeensittinghere?But,toansweryourquestion,IneverleavemychildrentogotoSaratoga,Washington,Newport,orEurope,oreventocomehere。Theyare,atthismoment,withafaithfulnurseattheDelevanHouse,and,havingaccomplishedmymission,weshallallreturnhometogether。“
Whenmychildrenreachedthemagicnumberofseven,mygoodangel,SusanB。Anthony,wouldsometimestakeoneortwoofthemtoherownquiethome,justoutofRochester,where,onawell-cultivatedlittlefarm,onecouldenjoyuninterruptedrestandthechoicestfruitsoftheseason。Thatwasalwaysasafeharborformyfriend,asherfamilysympathizedfullyinthereformstowhichshegaveherlife。IhavemanypleasantmemoriesofmyownflyingvisitstothathospitableQuakerhomeandthebroadcatholicspiritofDanielandLucyAnthony。Whateveroppositionandridiculetheirdaughterenduredelsewhere,sheenjoyedthesteadfastsympathyandconfidenceofherownhomecircle。HerfaithfulsisterMary,amostsuccessfulteacherinthepublicschoolsofRochesterforaquarterofacentury,andagoodfinancier,whowithherpatrimonyandsalaryhadlaidbyacompetence,tookonhershouldersdoubledutyathomeincheeringthedecliningyearsofherparents,thatSusanmightdothepublicworkinthereformsinwhichtheywereequallyinterested。Now,withlife\'searnestworknearlyaccomplished,thesistersarelivinghappilytogether;illustratinganotherofthemanycharminghomesofsinglewomen,sorapidlymultiplyingoflate。
MissAnthony,whowasafrequentguestatmyhome,sometimesstoodguardwhenIwasabsent。Thechildrenofourhouseholdsaythatamongtheirearliestrecollectionsisthetableauof“MotherandSusan,“seatedbyalargetablecoveredwithbooksandpapers,alwayswritingandtalkingabouttheConstitution,interruptedwithoccasionalvisitsfromothersofthefaithful。HithercameElizabethOakesSmith,PaulinaWrightDavis,FrancesDanaGage,Dr。
HarrietHunt,Rev。AntoinetteBrown,LucyStone,andAbbyKelly,untilallthesenameswereasfamiliarashouseholdwordstothechildren。
MarthaC。WrightofAuburnwasafrequentvisitoratthecenteroftherebellion,asmysequesteredcottageonLocustHillwasfacetiouslycalled。
Shebroughttothesecouncilsofwarnotonlyherownwisdom,butthatofthewifeandsisterofWilliamH。Seward,andsometimesencouragingsuggestionsfromthegreatstatesmanhimself,fromwhosewritingsweoftengleanedgrandandradicalsentiments。LucretiaMott,too,beinganoccasionalguestofhersister,MarthaC。Wright,addedthedignityofherpresenceatmanyoftheseimportantconsultations。Shewasuniformlyinfavoroftoningdownourfierypronunciamentos。ForMissAnthonyandmyself,theEnglishlanguagehadnowordsstrongenoughtoexpresstheindignationwefeltattheprolongedinjusticetowomen。Wefound,however,that,afterexpressingourselvesinthemostvehementmannerandthusinameasuregivingourfeelingsanoutlet,wewerereconciledtoissuethedocumentsinmilderterms。IfthemenoftheStatecouldhaveknownthesternrebukes,thedenunciations,thewit,theirony,thesarcasmthatweregarneredthere,andthenjudiciouslypigeonholedandmilderandmorepersuasiveappealssubstituted,theywouldhavebeentrulythankfulthattheyfarednoworse。
SenatorSewardfrequentlyleftWashingtontovisitinourneighborhood,atthehouseofJudgeG。V。Sackett,amanofwealthandpoliticalinfluence。
OneoftheSenator\'sstandinganecdotes,atdinner,toillustratethepurifyinginfluenceofwomenatthepolls,whichhealwaystoldwithgreatzestformyespecialbenefit,wasinregardtothemannerinwhichhiswife\'ssisterexercisedtherightofsuffrage。
Hesaid:“Mrs。WordenhavingthesupervisionofafarmnearAuburn,wasobligedtohiretwoorthreemenforitscultivation。Itwashercustom,havingexaminedthemastotheircapacitytoperformtherequiredlabor,theirknowledgeoftools,horses,cattle,andhorticulture,toinquireastotheirpolitics。Sheinformedthemthat,beingawidowandhavingnoonetorepresenther,shemusthaveRepublicanstodohervotingandtorepresentherpoliticalopinions,anditalwayssohappenedthatthemenwhoofferedtheirservicesbelongedtotheRepublicanparty。Iremarkedtoher,oneday,\'Areyousureyourmenvoteastheypromise?\'\'Yes,\'shereplied,\'Itrustnothingtotheirdiscretion。ItaketheminmycarriagewithinsightofthepollsandputtheminchargeofsomeRepublicanwhocanbetrusted。IseethattheyhavetherightticketsandthenIfeelsurethatIamfaithfullyrepresented,andIknowIamrightinsodoing。
Ihaveneitherhusband,father,norson;Iamresponsibleformyowntaxes;
amamenabletoallthelawsoftheState;mustpaythepenaltyofmyowncrimesifIcommitany;henceIhavetheright,accordingtotheprinciplesofourgovernment,torepresentation,andsolongasIamnotpermittedtovoteinperson,Ihavearighttodosobyproxy;henceIhirementovotemyprinciples。\'“
Thesetwosisters,Mrs。WordenandMrs。Seward,daughtersofJudgeMiller,aninfluentialman,werewomenofcultureandremarkablenaturalintelligence,andinterestedinallprogressiveideas。Theyhadrarecommonsenseandindependenceofcharacter,greatsimplicityofmanner,andwerewhollyindifferenttothelittleartsofthetoilet。
Iwasoftentoldbyfashionablewomenthattheyobjectedtothewoman\'srightsmovementbecauseofthepublicityofaconvention,theimmodestyofspeakingfromaplatform,andthetrialofseeingone\'snameinthepapers。Severalladiesmadesuchremarkstomeoneday,asabevyofusweresittingtogetherinoneofthefashionablehotelsinNewport。Wewereholdingaconventionthereatthattime,andsomeofthemhadbeenpresentatoneofthesessions。“Really,“saidI,“ladies,yousurpriseme;ourconventionsarenotaspublicastheballroomwhereIsawyoualldancinglastnight。Astomodesty,itmaybeaquestion,inmanyminds,whetheritislessmodesttospeakwordsofsobernessandtruth,plainlydressedonaplatform,thangorgeouslyarrayed,withbarearmsandshoulders,towaltzinthearmsofstrangegentlemen。Andastothepress,Inoticeyouallreading,inthismorning\'spapers,withevidentsatisfaction,thepersonalcomplimentsandfulldescriptionsofyourdressesatthelastball。Ipresumethatanyoneofyouwouldhavefeltslighted,ifyournamehadnotbeenmentionedinthegeneraldescription。Whenmynameismentioned,itisinconnectionwithsomegreatreformmovement。Thusweallsufferorenjoythatsamepublicity杦earealikeridiculed。Wisemenpityandridiculeyou,andfoolspityandridiculeme杫ouasthevictimsoffollyandfashion,meastherepresentativeofmanyofthedisagreeable\'isms\'oftheage,astheychoosetostyleliberalopinions。Itisamusing,inanalyzingprejudices,toseeonwhatslenderfoundationtheyrest。“Andtheladiesaroundmeweresocompletelycorneredthatnooneattemptedananswer。
IrememberbeingatonepartyatSecretarySeward\'shome,atAuburn,oneevening,whenMr。Burlingame,specialambassadorfromChinatotheUnitedStates,withaChinesedelegation,wereamongtheguests。Assoonasthedancingcommenced,andyoungladiesandgentlemen,lockedineachother\'sarms,begantowhirlinthegiddywaltz,theseChinesegentlemenweresoshockedthattheycoveredtheirfaceswiththeirfans,occasionallypeepingouteachsideandexpressingtheirsurprisetoeachother。Theythoughtusthemostimmodestwomenonthefaceoftheearth。Modestyandtastearequestionsoflatitudeandeducation;themorepeopleknow,杢hemoretheirideasareexpandedbytravel,experience,andobservation,杢helesseasilytheyareshocked。Thenarrownessandbigotryofwomenaretheresultoftheircircumscribedsphereofthoughtandaction。
AfewyearsafterJudgeHurlberthadpublishedhisworkon“HumanRights,“
inwhichheadvocatedwoman\'srighttothesuffrage,andIhadaddressedthelegislature,wemetatadinnerpartyinAlbany。SenatorandMrs。Sewardwerethere。TheSenatorwasverymerryonthatoccasionandmadeJudgeHurlbertandmyselfthetargetforallhisridiculeonthewoman\'srightsquestion,inwhichthemostofthecompanyjoined,sothatwestoodquitealone。Surethatwehadtherightonoursideandtheargumentsclearlydefinedinourminds,andbeingbothcoolandself-possessed,andinwitandsarcasmquiteequaltoanyofthem,wefoughttheSenator,inchbyinch,untilhehadaverynarrowplatformtostandon。Mrs。Sewardmaintainedanunbrokensilence,whilethoseladieswhodidopentheirlipswerewiththeopposition,supposing,nodoubt,thatSenatorSewardrepresentedhiswife\'sopinions。
Whenweladieswithdrewfromthetablemyembarrassmentmaybeeasilyimagined。SeparatedfromtheJudge,Iwouldnowbeanhourwithabevyofladieswhoevidentlyfeltrepugnancetoallmymostcherishedopinions。
ItwasthefirsttimeIhadmetMrs。Seward,andIdidnotthenknowthebroad,liberaltendenciesofhermind。Whatatideofdisagreeablethoughtsrushedthroughmeinthatshortpassagefromthediningroomtotheparlor。
HowgladlyIwouldhaveglidedoutthefrontdoor!Butthatwasimpossible,soImadeupmymindtostrollroundasifself-absorbed,andlookatthebooksandpaintingsuntiltheJudgeappeared;asItookitforgrantedthat,afterallIhadsaidatthetableonthepolitical,religious,andsocialequalityofwomen,notaladywouldhaveanythingtosaytome。
Imagine,then,mysurprisewhen,themomenttheparlordoorwascloseduponus,Mrs。Seward,approachingmemostaffectionately,said:
“Letmethankyouforthebravewordsyouutteredatthedinnertable,andforyourspeechbeforethelegislature,thatthrilledmysoulasI
readitoverandover。“
Iwasfilledwithjoyandastonishment。Recoveringmyself,Isaid,“Isitpossible,Mrs。Seward,thatyouagreewithme?Thenwhy,whenIwassohardpressedbyfoesoneveryside,didyounotcometothedefense?
Isupposedthatallyouladieswerehostiletoeveryoneofmyideasonthisquestion。“
“No,no!”saidshe;“Iamwithyouthoroughly,butIamaborncoward;
thereisnothingIdreadmorethanMr。Seward\'sridicule。Iwouldratherwalkuptothecannon\'smouththanencounterit。““I,too,amwithyou,“
“AndI,“saidtwoorthreeothers,whohadbeensilentatthetable。
Ineverhadamoreserious,heartfeltconversationthanwiththeseladies。
Mrs。Seward\'sspontaneityandearnestnesshadmovedthemalldeeply,andwhentheSenatorappearedthefirstwordshesaidwere:
“BeforewepartImustconfessthatIwasfairlyvanquishedbyyouandtheJudge,onmyownprinciples“forwehadquotedsomeofhismostradicalutterances。“Youhavetheargument,butcustomandprejudiceareagainstyou,andtheyarestrongerthantruthandlogic。“ChapterXIII。ChapterXIII。CHAPTERXIII。REFORMSANDMOBS。
THEREwasonebrightwomanamongthemanyinourSenecaFallsliterarycircletowhomIwouldgivemorethanapassingnotice朚rs。AmeliaBloomer,whorepresentedthreenovelphasesofwoman\'slife。Shewasassistantpostmistress;
aneditorofareformpaperadvocatingtemperanceandwoman\'srights;andanadvocateofthenewcostumewhichborehername!
In1849herhusbandwasappointedpostmaster,andshebecamehisdeputy,wasdulyswornin,and,duringtheadministrationofTaylorandFillmore,servedinthatcapacity。Whensheassumedherdutiestheimprovementintheappearanceandconductoftheofficewasgenerallyacknowledged。A
neatlittleroomadjoiningthepublicofficebecameakindofladies\'exchange,wherethosecomingfromdifferentpartsofthetowncouldmeettotalkoverthenewsofthedayandreadthepapersandmagazinesthatcametoMrs。BloomeraseditoroftheLily。ThosewhoenjoyedthebriefreignofawomaninthepostofficecanreadilytestifytothevoidfeltbytheladiesofthevillagewhenMrs。Bloomer\'stermexpiredandamanoncemorereignedinherstead。However,shestilleditedtheLily,andherofficeremainedafashionablecenterforseveralyears。Althoughsheworethebloomerdress,itsoriginatorwasElizabethSmithMiller,theonlydaughterofGerritSmith。Inthewinterof1852Mrs。MillercametovisitmeinSenecaFalls,dressedsomewhatintheTurkishstyle杝hortskirt,fulltrousersoffineblackbroadcloth;aSpanishcloak,ofthesamematerial,reachingtotheknee;beaverhatandfeathersanddarkfurs;
altogetheramostbecomingcostumeandexceedinglyconvenientforwalkinginallkindsofweather。Toseemycousin,withalampinonehandandababyintheother,walkupstairswitheaseandgrace,while,withflowingrobes,Ipulledmyselfupwithdifficulty,lampandbabyoutofthequestion,readilyconvincedmethattherewassoreneedofreforminwoman\'sdress,andIpromptlydonnedasimilarattire。WhatincrediblefreedomIenjoyedfortwoyears!Likeacaptivesetfreefromhisballandchain,Iwasalwaysreadyforabriskwalkthroughsleetandsnowandrain,toclimbamountain,jumpoverafence,workinthegarden,and,infact,foranynecessarylocomotion。
BloomerisnowarecognizedwordintheEnglishlanguage。Mrs。Bloomer,havingtheLilyinwhichtodiscussthemeritsofthenewdress,thepressgenerallytookupthequestion,andmuchvaluableinformationwaselicitedonthephysiologicalresultsofwoman\'sfashionableattire;
thecripplingeffectoftightwaistsandlongskirts,theheavyweightonthehips,andhighheels,allcombinedtothrowthespineoutofplumbandlaythefoundationforallmannerofnervousdiseases。But,whileallagreedthatsomechangewasabsolutelynecessaryforthehealthofwomen,thepressstoutlyridiculedthosewhowerereadytomaketheexperiment。
Afewsensiblewomen,indifferentpartsofthecountry,adoptedthecostume,andfarmers\'wivesespeciallyproveditsconvenience。Itwasalsowornbyskaters,gymnasts,tourists,andinsanitariums。But,whilethefewrealizeditsadvantages,themanylaughedittoscorn,andheapedsuchridiculeonitswearersthattheysoonfoundthatthephysicalfreedomenjoyeddidnotcompensateforthepersistentpersecutionandpettyannoyancessufferedateveryturn。Toberudelygazedatinpublicandprivate,tobetheconscioussubjectsofcriticism,andtobefollowedbycrowdsofboysinthestreets,wereall,totheverylastdegree,exasperating。A
favoritedoggerelthatourtormentorschanted,whenweappearedinpublicplaces,ranthus:“Heigh!ho!inrainandsnow,Thebloomernowisallthego。
Twentytailorstakethestitches,Twentywomenwearthebreeches。
Heigh!ho!inrainorsnow,Thebloomernowisallthego。“Thesingersweregenerallyinvisiblebehindsomefenceoratticwindow。
Thosewhoworethedresscanrecallcountlessamusingandannoyingexperiences。
Thepatienceofmostofuswasexhaustedinabouttwoyears;butourleader,Mrs。Miller,bravelyadheredtothecostumefornearlysevenyears,underthemosttryingcircumstances。WhileherfatherwasinCongress,sheworeitatmanyfashionabledinnersandreceptionsinWashington。Shewasbravelysustained,however,byherhusband,ColonelMiller,whoneverflinchedinescortinghiswifeandhercoadjutors,howeverinartistictheircostumesmightbe。Totall,gauntwomenwithlargefeetandtothosewhowereshortandstout,itwasequallytrying。Mrs。Millerwasalsoencouragedbytheintensefeelingofherfatheronthequestionofwoman\'sdress。Tohimthewholerevolutioninwoman\'spositionturnedonherdress。Thelongskirtwasthesymbolofherdegradation。
Thenamesofthosewhoworethebloomercostume,besidesthosealreadymentioned,werePaulinaWrightDavis,LucyStone,SusanB。Anthony,SarahandAngelinaGrimke,Mrs。WilliamBurleigh,CeliaBurleigh,CharlotteBeebeWilbour,HelenJarvis,LydiaJenkins,AmeliaWillard,Dr。HarrietN。Austin,andmanypatientsinsanitariums,whosenamesIcannotrecall。Lookingbacktothisexperiment,Iamnotsurprisedatthehostilityofmeningeneraltothedress,asitmadeitveryuncomfortableforthemtogoanywherewiththosewhoworeit。Peoplewouldstare,manymenandwomenmakeruderemarks,boysfollowedincrowds,withjeersandlaughter,sothatgentlemeninattendancewouldfeelittheirdutytoshowfight,unlesstheyhadsufficientself-controltopursuetheeventenoroftheirway,astheladiesthemselvesdid,withouttakingtheleastnoticeofthecommotiontheycreated。ButColonelMillerwentthroughtheordealwithcoolnessanddoggeddetermination,tothevexationofhisacquaintances,whothoughtoneofhisdutiesasahusbandwastoprescribehiswife\'scostume。
Thoughwedidnotrealizethesuccesswehopedforbymakingthedresspopular,yettheeffectwasnotlost。Wewerewellawarethatthedresswasnotartistic,andthoughwemademanychanges,ourowngoodtastewasneversatisfieduntilwethrewasidetheloosetrousersandadoptedbuttonedleggins。Aftergivinguptheexperiment,wefoundthatthecostumeinwhichDianatheHuntressisrepresented,andthatwornonthestagebyEllenTreeintheplayof“Ion,“wouldhavebeenmoreartisticandconvenient。
Butwe,whohadmadetheexperiment,weretoohappytomoveaboutunnoticedandunknown,torisk,again,thehappinessofourselvesandourfriendsbyanyfurtherexperiments。IhaveneverwonderedsincethattheChinesewomenallowtheirdaughters\'feettobeencasedinironshoes,northattheHindoowidowswalkcalmlytothefuneralpyre;forgreatarethepenaltiesofthosewhodareresistthebehestsofthetyrantCustom。
Neverthelesstheagitationhasbeenkeptup,inamildform,bothinEnglandandAmerica。LadyHarberton,in1885,wasattheheadofanorganizedmovementinLondontointroducethebifurcatedskirt;Mrs。JennessMiller,inthiscountry,ismakinganentirerevolutionineverygarmentthatbelongstoawoman\'stoilet;andcommon-senseshoemakershavevouchsafedtous,atlast,alow,squareheeltoourbootsandabroadsoleinwhichthefivetoescanspreadthemselvesatpleasure。EvidentlyanewdayofphysicalfreedomisatlastdawningforthemostcribbedandcrippledofEve\'sunhappydaughters。
ItwaswhilelivinginSenecaFalls,andatoneofthemostdespairingperiodsofmyyounglife,thatoneofthebestgiftsofthegodscametomeintheformofagood,faithfulhousekeeper。Shewasindeedatreasure,afriendandcomforter,asecondmothertomychildren,andunderstoodalllife\'sdutiesandgladlyboreitsburdens。Shecouldfillanydepartmentindomesticlife,andforthirtyyearswasthejoyofourhousehold。Butforthisnoble,self-sacrificingwoman,muchofmypublicworkwouldhavebeenquiteimpossible。IfbywordordeedIhavemadethejourneyoflifeeasierforanystrugglingsoul,ImustinjusticesharethemeedofpraiseaccordedmewithmylittleQuakerfriendAmeliaWillard。
Therearetwoclassesofhousekeepers杘nethatwillgetwhattheywant,ifintherangeofhumanpossibilities,andthenaccepttheinevitableinconvenienceswithcheerfulnessandheroism;theother,fromakindofchronicinertiaandfearoftakingresponsibility,accepteverythingastheyfindit,thoughwithgentle,continuouscomplainings。Thelatterarecalledamiablewomen。Suchawomanwasourcongressman\'swifein1854,and,asIwasthereservoirofallhersorrows,greatandsmall,Ibecameverywearyofheramiablenon-resistance。Amongotherdomestictrials,shehadakitchenstovethatsmokedandleaked,whichcouldneitherbakenorbroil,朼worthlessthing,朼ndtoosmallforanypurpose。Consequentlyhalftheirviandswerespoiledinthecooking,andthecooksleftindisgust,oneafteranother。
Intellingme,oneday,ofthesekitchenmisadventures,sheactuallyshedtears,whichsorousedmysympathiesthat,withsurprise,Iexclaimed:
“Whydoyounotbuyanewstove?”Tomyunassistedcommonsensethatseemedthepracticalthingtodo。“Why,“shereplied,“Ihaveneverpurchasedadarningneedle,toputthecasestrongly,withoutconsultingMr。S。,andhedoesnotthinkanewstovenecessary。““What,pray,“saidI,“doesheknowaboutstoves,sittinginhiseasy-chairinWashington?Ifhehadadulloldknifewithbrokenblades,hewouldsoongetanewonewithwhichtosharpenhispensandpencils,and,ifheattemptedtocookameal杇rantingheknewhow杘nyouroldstove,hewouldsetitoutofdoorsthenexthour。
Nowmyadvicetoyouistobuyanewonethisveryday!”
“Blessme!”shesaid,“thatwouldmakehimfurious;hewouldblowmesky-high。““Well,“Ireplied,“supposehedidgointoaregulartantrumanduseallthemoststartlingexpletivesinthevocabularyforfifteenminutes!Whatisthatcomparedwithagoodstove365daysintheyear?
Justputallhecouldsayononeside,andalltheadvantagesyouwouldenjoyontheother,andyoumustreadilyseethathiswrathwouldkickthebeam。“Asmylogicwasirresistible,shesaid,“Well,ifyouwillgowithme,andhelpselectastove,IthinkIwilltaketheresponsibility。“
Accordinglywewenttothehardwarestoreandselectedthemostapproved,largest-sizedstove,withallthebestcookingutensils,bestRussianpipe,etc。“Now,“saidshe,“Iaminequalneedofagoodstoveinmysittingroom,andIwouldlikethepipesofbothstovestoleadintodumbstovesabove,andthusheattwoorthreeroomsupstairsformychildrentoplayin,astheyhavenoplaceexceptthesittingroom,wheretheymustalwaysbewithme;butIsupposeitisnotbesttodotoomuchatonetime。““Onthecontrary,“Ireplied,“asyourhusbandiswealthy,youhadbettergetallyoureallyneednow。Mr。S。willprobablybenomoresurprisedwithtwostovesthanwithone,and,asyouexpectahotsceneoverthematter,themoreyougetoutofitthebetter。“
Sothestovesandpipeswereordered,holescutthroughtheceiling,andallwereinworkingordernextday。Thecookwasdelightedoverhersplendidstoveandshiningtins,copper-bottomedteakettleandboiler,andwarmsleepingroomupstairs;thechildrenweredelightedwiththeirlargeplayrooms,andmadamjubilantwithheraddedcomfortsandthatnewbornfeelingofindependenceonehasinassumingresponsibility。
ShewasexpectingMr。S。homeintheholidays,andoccasionallyweakenedattheprospectofwhatshefearedmightbeadisagreeableencounter。Atsuchtimesshecametoconsultwithme,astowhatshewouldsayanddowhenthecrisisarrived。Havingstudiedthegenushomoalikeonthedivineheightsofexaltationandinthevalleysofhumiliation,Iwasabletomakesomevaluablesuggestions。
“Now,“saidI,“whenyourhusbandexplodes,asyouthinkhewill,neithersaynordoanything;sitandgazeoutofthewindowwiththatfar-away,sadlookwomenknowsowellhowtoaffect。Ifyoucansummontearsatpleasure,afewwouldnotbeamiss;agentleshower,notenoughtomakethenoseandeyesredortodetractfromyourbeauty。Mencannotresistbeautyandtears。Nevermartheireffectwithanythingborderingonsobsandhysteria;
suchviolentmanifestationsbeingneitherrefinednorartistic。Asceneinwhichonepersondoesallthetalkingmustbelimitedintime。Noordinarymancankeepatwhiteheatfifteenminutes;ifhisvictimsaysnothing,hewillsoonexhausthimself。Remembereverytimeyouspeakinthewayofdefense,yougivehimanewtextonwhichtobranchoutagain。Ifsilenceisevergolden,itiswhenahusbandisinatantrum。“
InduetimeMr。S。arrived,ladenwithChristmaspresents,andCharlottecameovertotellmethatshehadpassedthroughtheordeal。Iwillgivethesceneinherownwordsasnearlyaspossible。“Myhusbandcameyesterday,justbeforedinner,and,asIexpectedhim,Ihadallthingsinorder。
Heseemedveryhappytoseemeandthechildren,andwehadagaytimelookingatourpresentsandchattingaboutWashingtonandallthathadhappenedsinceweparted。Itmademesad,inthemidstofourhappiness,tothinkhowsoonthecurrentofhisfeelingswouldchange,andIwishedinmysoulthatIhadnotboughtthestoves。But,atlast,dinnerwasannounced,andIknewthatthehourhadcome。Heranupstairstogiveafewtouchestohistoilet,whenlo!theshiningstovesandpipescaughthiseyes。Heexploredtheupperapartmentsandcamedownthebackstairs,glancedatthekitchenstove,thenintothediningroom,andstoodconfounded,foramoment,beforethenickel-plated\'MorningGlory。\'Thenheexclaimed,\'Heavensandearth!Charlotte,whathaveyoubeendoing?\'Irememberedwhatyoutoldmeandsaidnothing,butlookedsteadilyoutofthewindow。
Isummonednotears,however,forIfeltmorelikelaughingthancrying;
helookedsoridiculousflyingroundspasmodically,likepopcornonahotgriddle,andtalkingasifmakingastumpspeechonthecorruptionsoftheDemocrats。ThefirsttimehepausedtotakebreathIsaid,inmysoftesttones:\'William,dinneriswaiting;Ifearthesoupwillbecold。\'Fortunatelyhewashungry,andthatgreatcentralorganoflifeandhappinessasserteditsclaimsonhisattention,andhetookhisseatatthetable。Ibrokewhatmighthavebeenanawkwardsilence,chattingwiththeolderchildrenabouttheirschoollessons。Fortunatelytheywerelate,anddidnotknowwhathadhappened,sotheytalkedtotheirfatherandgraduallyrestoredhisequilibrium。Wehadaverygooddinner,andIhavenotheardawordaboutthestovessince。Isupposeweshallhaveanotherscenewhenthebillispresented。“
Afewyearslater,HoraceGreeleycametoSenecaFallstolectureontemperance。Ashestayedwithus,weinvitedMr。S。,amongothers,todinner。
Thechieftopicatthetablewastheidiosyncrasiesofwomen。Mr。Greeleytoldmanyamusingthingsabouthiswife,ofhererraticmovementsandsuddendecisionstodoanddarewhatseemedmostimpracticable。Perhaps,onrisingsomemorning,shewouldsay:“IthinkI\'llgotoEuropebythenextstreamer,Horace。Willyougetticketsto-dayforme,thenurse,andchildren?“
“Well,“saidMr。S。,“shemustbesomethinglikeourhostess。Everytimeherhusbandgoesawayshecutsadoororwindow。Theyhaveonlytendoorstolockeverynight,now。“
“Yes,“Isaid,“andyourownwife,too,Mrs。S。,hasthecreditofsomehigh-handedmeasureswhenyouareinWashington。“ThenItoldthewholestory,amidpealsoflaughter,justasrelatedabove。ThedinnertablescenefairlyconvulsedtheCongressman。ThethoughtthathehadmadesuchafoolofhimselfintheeyesofCharlottethatshecouldnotevensummonatearinherdefense,particularlypleasedhim。Whensufficientlyrecoveredtospeak,hesaid:“Well,InevercouldunderstandhowitwasthatCharlottesuddenlyemergedfromherthraldomandmanifestedsuchrareexecutiveability。
NowIseetowhomIamindebtedforthemostcomfortablepartofmymarriedlife。Iamathousandtimesobligedtoyou;youdidjustrightandsodidshe,andshehasbeenahappierwomaneversince。Shenowgetswhatsheneeds,andfretsnomore,tome,abouttenthousandlittlethings。Howcanamanknowwhatimplementsarenecessaryfortheworkheneverdoes?
Ofallagenciesforupsettingtheequanimityoffamilylife,nonecansurpassanold,broken-downkitchenstove!”
Inthewinterof1861,justaftertheelectionofLincoln,theabolitionistsdecidedtoholdaseriesofconventionsinthechiefcitiesoftheNorth。
Alltheiravailablespeakerswerepledgedforactiveservice。TheRepublicanparty,havingabsorbedthepoliticalabolitionistswithinitsranksbyitsdeclaredhostilitytotheextensionofslavery,hadcomeintopowerwithoverwhelmingmajorities。HencetheGarrisonianabolitionists,opposedtoallcompromises,feltthatthiswastheopportunemomenttorousethepeopletothenecessityofholdingthatpartytoitsdeclaredprinciples,andpushingit,ifpossible,asteportwoforward。
IwasinvitedtoaccompanyMissAnthonyandBeriahGreentoafewpointsinCentralNewYork。Butwesoonfound,bytheconcertedactionofRepublicansalloverthecountry,thatanti-slaveryconventionswouldnotbetolerated。
ThusRepublicansandDemocratsmadecommoncauseagainsttheabolitionists。
TheJohnBrownraid,theyearbefore,hadintimidatedNorthernpoliticiansasmuchasSouthernslaveholders,andthegeneralfeelingwasthatthediscussionofthequestionattheNorthshouldbealtogethersuppressed。
FromBuffalotoAlbanyourexperiencewasthesame,variedonlybythefertileresourcesoftheactorsandtheirsurroundings。ThirtyyearsofeducationhadsomewhatchangedthecharacterofNorthernmobs。Theynolongerdraggedmenthroughthestreetswithropesaroundtheirnecks,norbrokeupwomen\'sprayermeetings;theynolongerthreweggsandbrickbatsattheapostlesofreform,nordippedtheminbarrelsoftarandfeathers,theysimplycrowdedthehalls,and,withlaughing,groaning,clapping,andcheering,effectuallyinterruptedtheproceedings。SuchwasourexperienceduringthetwodaysweattemptedtoholdaconventioninSt。James\'Hall,Buffalo。Aswepaidforthehall,themobenjoyedthemselves,atourexpense,inmorewaysthanone。Everysession,attheappointedtime,wetookourplacesontheplatform,making,atvariousintervalsofsilence,renewedeffortstospeak。Notsucceeding,wesatandconversedwitheachotherandthemanyfriendswhocrowdedtheplatformandanterooms。Thus,amongourselves,wehadapleasantreceptionandadiscussionofmanyphasesofthequestionthatbroughtustogether。Themobnotonlyvouchsafedtoustheprivilegeoftalkingtoourfriendswithoutinterruption,butdelegationsoftheirowncamebehindthescenes,fromtimetotime,todiscusswithustherightoffreespeechandtheconstitutionalityofslavery。
TheseBuffalorowdieswereheadedbyex-JusticeHinson,aidedbyyoungermembersoftheFillmoreandSeymourfamilies,andthechiefofpoliceandfiftysubordinates,whowereadmittedtothehallfree,fortheexpresspurposeofprotectingourrightoffreespeech,butwho,indefianceofthemayor\'sorders,madenottheslightesteffortinourdefense。AtLockporttherewasafeebleattemptinthesamedirection。AtAlbionneitherhall,church,norschoolhousecouldbeobtained,soweheldsmallmeetingsinthediningroomofthehotel。AtRochester,CorinthianHallwaspackedlongbeforethehouradvertised。Thiswasadelicatelyappreciative,jocosemob。AtthispointAaronPowelljoinedus。Ashehadjustrisenfromabedofsickness,lookingpaleandemaciated,heslowlymountedtheplatform。
Themobatoncetookinhislookofexhaustion,and,asheseatedhimself,theygaveanaudiblesimultaneoussigh,asiftosay,whatareliefitistobeseated!SocompletelydidthetendermanifestationreflectMr。
Powell\'sapparentconditionthatthewholeaudienceburstintoaroaroflaughter。Here,too,allattemptstospeakwerefutile。AtPortByronageneroussprinklingofcayennepepperonthestovesooncutshortallconstitutionalargumentsandpæ;anstoliberty。
AndsoitwasallthewaytoAlbany。ThewholeStatewasaflamewiththemobspirit,andfromBostonandvariouspointsinotherStatesthesamenewsreachedus。Asthelegislaturewasinsession,andwewereadvertisedinAlbany,aradicalmembersarcasticallymoved“ThatasMrs。StantonandMissAnthonywereabouttomoveonAlbany,themilitiabeorderedoutfortheprotectionofthecity。“Happily,AlbanycouldthenboastofaDemocraticmayor,amanofcourageandconscience,whosaidtherightoffreespeechshouldneverbetroddenunderfootwherehehadtherighttopreventit。
Andgrandlydidthatonedeterminedmanmaintainorderinhisjurisdiction。
ThroughallthesessionsoftheconventionMayorThatchersatontheplatform,hispolicestationedindifferentpartsofthehallandoutsidethebuilding,todispersethecrowdasfastasitcollected。Ifamanorboyhissedormadetheslightestinterruption,hewasimmediatelyejected。Andnotonlydidthemayorpreserveorderinthemeetings,but,withacompanyofarmedpolice,heescortedus,everytime,toandfromtheDelevanHouse。ThelastnightGerritSmithaddressedthemobfromthestepsofthehotel,afterwhichtheygavehimthreecheersanddispersedingoodorder。
WhenproposingfortheMayoravoteofthanks,atthecloseoftheconvention,Mr。Smithexpressedhisfearsthatithadbeenasevereordealforhimtolistentotheseprolongedanti-slaverydiscussions。Hesmiled,andsaid:
“Ihavereallybeendeeplyinterestedandinstructed。Irathercongratulatemyselfthataconventionofthischaracterhas,atlast,comeinthelineofmybusiness;otherwiseIshouldhaveprobablyremainedinignoranceofmanyimportantfactsandopinionsInowunderstandandappreciate。“
Whileallthiswasgoingonpublicly,anequallytryingexperiencewasprogressing,daybyday,behindthescenes。MissAnthonyhadbeeninstrumentalinhelpingamuchabusedmother,withherchild,toescapefromahusbandwhohadimmuredherinaninsaneasylum。ThewifebelongedtooneofthefirstfamiliesofNewYork,herbrotherbeingaUnitedStatessenator,andthehusband,also,amanofposition;alargecircleoffriendsandacquaintanceswasinterestedintheresult。Thoughshewasincarceratedinaninsaneasylumforeighteenmonths,yetmembersofherownfamilyagainandagaintestifiedthatshewasnotinsane。MissAnthony,knowingthatshewasnot,andbelievingfullythattheunhappymotherwasthevictimofaconspiracy,wouldnotrevealherhidingplace。
KnowingtheconfidenceMissAnthonyfeltinthewisdomofMr。GarrisonandMr。Phillips,theywereimploredtousetheirinfluencewithhertogiveupthefugitives。Lettersandtelegrams,persuasions,arguments,andwarningsfromMr。Garrison,Mr。Phillips,andtheSenatorontheoneside,andfromLydiaMott,Mrs。ElizabethF。Ellet,andAbbyHopperGibbons,ontheother,pouredinuponher,dayafterday;butMissAnthonyremainedimmovable,althoughsheknewthatshewasdefyingandviolatingthelawandmightbearrestedanymomentontheplatform。Wehadknownsomanyaggravatedcasesofthiskindthat,indailycounsel,weresolvedthatthiswomanshouldnotberecapturedifitwerepossibletopreventit。
Tousitlookedasimperativeadutytoshieldasanemother,whohadbeentornfromafamilyoflittlechildrenanddoomedtothecompanionshipoflunatics,andtoaidherinfleeingtoaplaceofsafety,astohelpafugitivefromslaverytoCanada。Inbothcasesanunjustlawwasviolated;
inbothcasesthesupposedownersofthevictimsweredefied;hence,inpointoflawandmorals,theactwasthesameinbothcases。TheresultprovedthewisdomofMissAnthony\'sdecision,asallwithwhomMrs。P。
cameincontactforyearsafterward,expressedtheopinionthatshewas,andalwayshadbeen,perfectlysane。Couldthedarksecretsofinsaneasylumsbebroughttolightweshouldbeshockedtoknowthegreatnumberofrebelliouswives,sisters,anddaughterswhoarethussacrificedtofalsecustomsandbarbarouslawsmadebymenforwomen。ChapterXIV。ChapterXIV。CHAPTERXIV。VIEWSONMARRIAGEANDDIVORCE。
THEwidespreaddiscussionwearehaving,justnow,onthesubjectofmarriageanddivorce,remindsmeofanequallyexcitingonein1860。A
veryliberalbill,introducedintotheIndianalegislaturebyRobertDaleOwen,andwhichpassedbyalargemajority,rousedmuchpublicthoughtonthequestion,andmadethatStatefreesoilforunhappywivesandhusbands。
AsimilarbillwasintroducedintothelegislatureofNewYorkbyMr。Ramsey,whichwasdefeatedbyfourvotes,owing,mainly,totheintenseoppositionofHoraceGreeley。HeandMr。Owenhadaprolongeddiscussion,intheNewYorkTribune,inwhichMr。Owengotdecidedlythebetteroftheargument。
TherehadbeenseveralaggravatedcasesofcrueltytowivesamongtheDutcharistocracy,sothatstronginfluencesinfavorofthebillhadbeenbroughttobearonthelegislature,buttheTribunethunderedeverymorninginitseditorialcolumnitsloudestpeals,whichreverberatedthroughtheState。Sobitterwastheoppositiontodivorce,foranycause,thatbutfewdaredtotakepartinthediscussion。Iwastheonlywoman,formanyyears,whowroteandspokeonthequestion。Articlesondivorce,byanumberofwomen,recentlypublishedintheNorthAmericanReview,areasignofprogress,showingthatwomendarespeakoutnowmorefreelyontherelationsthatmostdeeplyconcernthem。
Myfeelingshadbeenstirredtotheirdepthsveryearlyinlifebythesufferingsofadearfriendofmine,atwhoseweddingIwasoneofthebridesmaids。Inlisteningtothefactsinhercase,mymindwasfullymadeupastothewisdomofaliberaldivorcelaw。WereadMilton\'sessaysondivorce,together,andwerethoroughlyconvincedastotherightanddutynotonlyofseparation,butofabsolutedivorce。WhiletheNewYorkbillwaspending,Iwasrequested,byLewisBenedict,oneofthecommitteewhohadthebillincharge,toaddressthelegislature。Igladlyaccepted,feelingthatherewasanopportunitynotonlytosupportmyfriendinthestepshehadtaken,buttomakethepathclearforotherunhappywiveswhomightdesiretofollowherexample。IhadnothoughtofthepersecutionIwasdrawingdownonmyselfforthusattackingsovenerableaninstitution。
IwasalwayscourageousinsayingwhatIsawtobetrue,forthesimplereasonthatIneverdreamedofopposition。WhatseemedtometoberightIthoughtmustbeequallyplaintoallotherrationalbeings。HenceIhadnodreadofdenunciation。IwasonlysurprisedwhenIencounteredit,andnonumberofexperienceshave,asyet,taughtmetofearpublicopinion。
WhatIsaidondivorcethirty-sevenyearsagoseemsquiteinlinewithwhatmanysaynow。ThetroublewasnotinwhatIsaid,butthatIsaidittoosoon,andbeforethepeoplewerereadytohearit。Itmaybe,however,thatIhelpedthemtogetready;whoknows?
AswewereholdingawomansuffrageconventioninAlbany,atthetimeappointedforthehearing,ErnestineL。RoseandLucretiaMottbrieflyaddedtheirviewsonthequestion。AlthoughMrs。MotthadurgedMrs。Roseandmyselftobeasmoderateaspossibleinourdemands,shequiteunconsciouslymadethemostradicalutteranceofall,insayingthatmarriagewasaquestionbeyondtherealmoflegislation,thatmustbelefttothepartiesthemselves。
WeralliedLucretiaonherradicalism,andsomeofthejournalscriticisedusseverely;butthefollowinglettershowsthatshehadnothoughtofrecedingfromherposition:“ROADSIDE,nearPhiladelphia,“4thMo。,30th,\'61。
“MYDEARLYDIAMOTT:
“Ihavewished,eversincepartingwiththeeandourotherdearfriendsinAlbany,tosendtheealine,andhaveonlywaitedinthehopeofcontributingalittle\'substantialaid\'towardyourneatandvaluable\'depository。\'
ThetwentydollarsinclosedisfromourFemaleAnti-slaverySociety。
“Iseetheannualmeeting,inNewYork,isnottobeheldthisspring。
SisterMarthaishere,andwasexpectingtoattendbothanniversaries。
Butwenowthinkthewoman\'srightsmeetinghadbetternotbeattempted,andshehaswrittenElizabethC。Stantontothiseffect。
“IwaswellsatisfiedwithbeingattheAlbanymeeting。Ihavesincemetwiththefollowing,fromaspeechofLordBrougham\'s,whichpleasedme,asbeingasradicalasmineinyourstatelyHallofRepresentatives:
“\'BeforewomencanhaveanyjusticebythelawsofEngland,theremustbeatotalreconstructionofthewholemarriagesystem;foranyattempttoamenditwouldproveuseless。Thegreatcharter,inestablishingthesupremacyoflawoverprerogative,providesonlyforjusticebetweenmanandman;forwomannothingisleftbutcommonlaw,accumulationsandmodificationsoforiginalGothicandRomanheathenism,whichnoamountoffiltrationthroughecclesiasticalcourtscouldchangeintoChristianlaws。TheyaredeclaredunworthyaChristianpeoplebygreatjurists;stilltheyremainunchanged。\'
“SoElizabethStantonwillseethatIhaveauthorityforgoingtotherootoftheevil。“Thine,“LUCRETIAMOTT。“
ThoseofuswhometinAlbanytalkedthematteroverinregardtoafreediscussionofthedivorcequestionatthecomingconventioninNewYork。Itwastheopinionofthosepresentthat,asthelawsonmarriageanddivorcewereveryunequalformanandwoman,thiswasalegitimatesubjectfordiscussiononourplatform;accordinglyIpresentedaseriesofresolutions,attheannualconvention,inNewYorkcity,towhichI
spokeforoveranhour。IwasfollowedbyAntoinetteL。Brown,whoalsopresentedaseriesofresolutionsinoppositiontomine。Shewas,inturn,answeredbyErnestineL。Rose。WendellPhillipsthenarose,and,inanimpressivemannerpronouncedthewholediscussionirrelevanttoourplatform,andmovedthatneitherthespeechesnorresolutionsgoontherecordsoftheconvention。AsIgreatlyadmiredWendellPhillips,andappreciatedhisgoodopinion,Iwassurprisedandhumiliatedtofindmyselfunderthebanofhisdisapprobation。Myfacewasscarlet,andItrembledwithmingledfeelingsofdoubtandfear杁oubtastothewisdomofmypositionandfearlesttheconventionshouldrepudiatethewholediscussion。MyemotionwassoapparentthatRev。SamuelLongfellow,abrotherofthepoet,whosatbesideme,whisperedinmyear,“Neverthelessyouareright,andtheconventionwillsustainyou。“
Mr。Phillipssaidthatasmarriageconcernedmanandwomanalike,andthelawsboreequallyonthem,womenhadnospecialgroundforcomplaint,although,inmyspeech,Ihadquotedmanylawstoshowthereverse。Mr。
GarrisonandRev。AntoinetteL。BrownwerealikeopposedtoMr。Phillips\'
motion,andclaimedthatmarriageanddivorcewerelegitimatesubjectsfordiscussiononourplatform。MissAnthonyclosedthedebate。Shesaid:
“IhopeMr。Phillipswillwithdrawhismotionthattheseresolutionsshallnotappearontherecordsoftheconvention。Iamverysurethatitwouldbecontrarytoallparliamentaryusagetosaythat,whenthespeecheswhichenforcedandadvocatedtheresolutionsarereportedandpublishedintheproceedings,theresolutionsshallnotbeplacedthere。Andastothepointthatthisquestiondoesnotbelongtothisplatform杅romthatItotallydissent。Marriagehaseverbeenaone-sidedmatter,restingmostunequallyuponthesexes。Byitmangainsall;womanlosesall;tyrantlawandlustreignsupremewithhim;meeksubmissionandreadyobediencealonebefither。Womanhasneverbeenconsulted;herwishhasneverbeentakenintoconsiderationasregardsthetermsofthemarriagecompact。Bylaw,publicsentiment,andreligion,杅romthetimeofMosesdowntothepresentday,杦omanhasneverbeenthoughtofotherthanasapieceofproperty,tobedisposedofatthewillandpleasureofman。Andatthisveryhour,byourstatutebooks,byourso-calledenlightenedChristiancivilization,shehasnovoicewhateverinsayingwhatshallbethebasisoftherelation。Shemustacceptmarriageasmanproffersit,ornotatall。
“Andthen,again,onMr。Phillips\'ownground,thediscussionisperfectlyinorder,sincenearlyallthewrongsofwhichwecomplaingrowoutoftheinequalityofthemarriagelaws,thatrobthewifeoftherighttoherselfandherchildren;thatmakehertheslaveofthemanshemarries。
Ihope,therefore,theresolutionswillbeallowedtogoouttothepublic;
thattheremaybeafairreportoftheideaswhichhaveactuallybeenpresentedhere;thattheymaynotbelefttothemercyofthesecularpress。Itrusttheconventionwillnotvotetoforbidthepublicationofthoseresolutionswiththeproceedings。“
Rev。WilliamHoisingtontheblindpreacherfollowedMissAnthony,andsaid:“Publishallthatyouhavedonehere,andletthepublicknowit。“
Thequestionwasthenput,onthemotionofMr。Phillips,anditwaslost。
AsMr。Greeley,incommentingontheconvention,tookthesamegroundwithMr。Phillips,thatthelawsonmarriageanddivorcewereequalformanandwoman,IansweredtheminthefollowinglettertotheNewYorkTribune。
“TotheEditoroftheNewYorkTribune:
“SIR:AtourrecentNationalWoman\'sRightsConventionmanyweresurprisedtohearWendellPhillipsobjecttothequestionofmarriageanddivorceasirrelevanttoourplatform。Hesaid:\'Wehadnorighttodiscusshereanylawsorcustomsbutthosewhereinequalityexistedforthesexes;thatthelawsonmarriageanddivorcerestedequallyonmanandwoman;thathesuffers,asmuchasshepossiblycould,thewrongsandabusesofanill-assortedmarriage。\'
“Nowitmuststrikeeverycarefulthinkerthatanimmensedifferencerestsinthefactthatmanhasmadethelawscunninglyandselfishlyforhisownpurpose。FromCokedowntoKent,whocanciteoneclauseofthemarriagecontractwherewomanhastheadvantage?Whenmansuffersfromfalselegislationhehashisremedyinhisownhands。Shallwomanbedeniedtherightofprotestagainstlawsinwhichshehadnovoice;lawswhichoutragetheholiestaffectionsofhernature;lawswhichtranscendthelimitsofhumanlegislation,inaconventioncalledfortheexpresspurposeofconsideringherwrongs?Hemightaswellobjecttoaprotestagainsttheinjusticeofhangingawoman,becausecapitalpunishmentbearsequallyonmanandwoman。
“Thecontractofmarriageisbynomeansequal。Thelawpermitsthegirltomarryattwelveyearsofage,whileitrequiresseveralyearsmoreofexperienceonthepartoftheboy。Inenteringthiscompact,themangivesupnothingthathebeforepossessed,heisamanstill;whilethelegalexistenceofthewomanissuspendedduringmarriage,andhenceforth,sheisknownbutinandthroughthehusband。Sheisnameless,purseless,childless杢houghawoman,anheiress,andamother。
“Blackstonesays:\'Thehusbandandwifeareone,andthatoneisthehusband。\'ChancellorKent,inhis\'Commentaries,\'says:\'Thelegaleffectsofmarriagearegenerallydeduciblefromtheprincipleofthecommonlaw,bywhichthehusbandandwifeareregardedasoneperson,andherlegalexistenceandauthoritylostorsuspendedduringthecontinuanceofthematrimonialunion。\'
“Thewifeisregardedbyalllegalauthoritiesasafemecovert,placedwhollysubpotestateviri。Hermoralresponsibility,even,ismergedinherhusband。Thelawtakesitforgrantedthatthewifelivesinfearofherhusband;thathiscommandisherhighestlaw;henceawifeisnotpunishableforthetheftcommittedinthepresenceofherhusband。
Anunmarriedwomancanmakecontracts,sueandbesued,enjoytherightsofproperty,toherinheritance杢oherwages杢oherperson杢oherchildren;
but,inmarriage,sheisrobbedbylawofallandeverynaturalandcivilright。Kentfurthersays:\'Thedisabilityofthewifetocontract,soastobindherself,arisesnotfromwantofdiscretion,butbecauseshehasenteredintoanindissolubleconnectionbywhichsheisplacedunderthepowerandprotectionofherhusband。\'Sheispossessedofcertainrightsuntilsheismarried;thenallaresuspended,torevive,again,themomentthebreathgoesoutofthehusband\'sbody。See\'Cowen\'sTreatise,\'vol。
2,p。709。
“Ifthecontractbeequal,whencecometheterms\'martialpower,\'\'maritalrights,\'\'obedienceandrestraint,\'\'dominionandcontrol,\'\'powerandprotection,\'etc。,etc。?Manycasesarestated,showingtheexerciseofamostquestionablepoweroverthewife,sustainedbythecourts。See\'BishoponDivorce,\'p。489。
“Thelawsondivorcearequiteasunequalasthoseonmarriage;yea,farmoreso。Theadvantagesseemtobeallononesideandthepenaltiesontheother。Inthecaseofdivorce,ifthehusbandbenottheguiltyparty,thewifegoesoutofthepartnershippenniless。Kent,vol。2,p。
33;\'BishoponDivorce,\'p。492。
“InNewYork,andsomeotherStates,thewifeoftheguiltyhusbandcannowsueforadivorceinherownname,andthecostscomeoutofthehusband\'sestate;but,inthemajorityoftheStates,sheisstillcompelledtosueinthenameofanother,asshehasnomeansforpayingcosts,eventhoughshemayhavebroughtherthousandsintothepartnership。\'Theallowancetotheinnocentwifeofadinterimalimonyandmoneytosustainthesuit,isnotregardedasastrictrightinher,butofsounddiscretioninthecourt。\'\'BishoponDivorce,\'p。581
“\'Manyjurists,\'saysKent,\'areofopinionthattheadulteryofthehusbandoughtnottobenoticedormadesubjecttothesameanimadversionsasthatofthewife,becauseitisnotevidenceofsuchentiredepravitynorequallyinjuriousinitseffectsuponthemorals,goodorder,andhappinessofthedomesticlife。Montesquieu,Pothier,andDr。Taylorallinsistthatthecasesofhusbandandwifeoughttobedistinguished,andthattheviolationofthemarriagevow,onthepartofthewife,isthemostmischievous,andtheprosecutionoughttobeconfinedtotheoffenseonherpart。“EspritdesLois,“tom。3,186;“Traité;duContratdeMariage,“No。516;
“ElementsofCivilLaw,“p。254。\'
“Sayyou,\'Thesearebuttheopinionsofmen\'?Onwhatelse,Iask,arethehundredsofwomendepending,who,thishour,demandinourcourtsareleasefromburdensomecontracts?Arenotthesedelicatemattersleftwhollytothediscretionofcourts?Arenotyoungwomenfromthefirstfamiliesdraggedintoourcourts,杋ntoassembliesofmenexclusively,杢hejudgesallmen,thejurorsallmen?Notruewomantheretoshieldthem,byherpresence,fromgrossandimpertinentquestionings,topitytheirmisfortunes,ortoprotestagainsttheirwrongs?
“Theadministrationofjusticedependsfarmoreontheopinionsofeminentjuriststhanonlawalone,forlawispowerlesswhenatvariancewithpublicsentiment。
“Donottheabovecitationsclearlyproveinequality?Arenottheveryletterandspiritofthemarriagecontractbasedontheideaofthesupremacyofmanasthekeeperofwoman\'svirtue杊ersoleprotectorandsupport?