Theylooksodullanddowdyinthespringweather,whenthesnowdropsandthecrocusesareputtingontheirdaintyfrocksofwhiteandmauveandyellow,andthebaby—budsfromeverybrancharepeepingwithbrighteyesoutontheworld,andstretchingforthsoftlittleleavestowardthecominggladnessoftheirlives。Theystandapart,socoldandhardamidthestirringhopeandjoythatarethrobbingallaroundthem。
Andinthedeepfullsummer—time,whenalltherestofnaturedonsitsrichestgarbofgreen,andtherosesclamberroundtheporch,andthegrasswaveswaist—highinthemeadow,andthefieldsaregaywithflowers——theyseemdulleranddowdierthaneverthen,wearingtheirfadedwinter’sdress,lookingsodingyandoldandworn。
Inthemellowdaysofautumn,whenthetrees,likedamesnolongeryoung,seektoforgettheiragedlooksundergorgeousbright—tonedrobesofgoldandbrownandpurple,andthegrainisyellowinthefields,andtheruddyfruithangsclusteringfromthedroopingboughs,andthewoodedhillsintheirthousandhuesstretchedlikeleafyrainbowsabovethevale——ah!surelytheylooktheirdullestanddowdiestthen。Thegatheredgloryofthedyingyearisallaroundthem。Theyseemsooutofplaceamongit,intheirsomber,everlastinggreen,likepoorrelationsatarichman’sfeast。Itissuchaweather—beatenoldgreendress。Somanysummers’sunshaveblisteredit,somanywinters’rainshavebeatuponit——suchashabby,mean,olddress;itistheonlyonetheyhave!
Theydonotlookquitesobadwhenthewearywinterweatheriscome,whentheflowersaredead,andthehedgerowsarebare,andthetreesstandoutleaflessagainstthegraysky,andthebirdsareallsilent,andthefieldsarebrown,andthevineclingsroundthecottageswithskinny,fleshlessarms,andtheyaloneofallthingsareunchanged,theyaloneofalltheforestaregreen,theyaloneofalltheverdanthoststandfirmtofrontthecruelwinter。
Theyarenotverybeautiful,onlystrongandstanchandsteadfast——thesameinalltimes,throughallseasons——everthesame,evergreen。
Thespringcannotbrightenthem,thesummercannotscorchthem,theautumncannotwitherthem,thewintercannotkillthem。
Thereareevergreenmenandwomenintheworld,praisebetoGod!Notmanyofthem,butafew。Theyarenottheshowyfolk;theyarenottheclever,attractivefolk。(Natureisanold—fashionedshopkeeper;
sheneverputsherbestgoodsinthewindow。)Theyareonlythequiet,strongfolk;theyarestrongerthantheworld,strongerthanlifeordeath,strongerthanFate。Thestormsoflifesweepoverthem,andtherainsbeatdownuponthem,andthebitingfrostscreeproundthem;butthewindsandtherainsandthefrostspassaway,andtheyarestillstanding,greenandstraight。Theylovethesunshineoflifeintheirundemonstrativeway——itspleasures,itsjoys。Butcalamitycannotbowthem,sorrowandafflictionbringnotdespairtotheirserenefaces,onlyalittletighteningofthelips;thesunofourprosperitymakesthegreenoftheirfriendshipnobrighter,thefrostofouradversitykillsnottheleavesoftheiraffection。
Letuslayholdofsuchmenandwomen;letusgrapplethemtouswithhooksofsteel;letusclingtothemaswewouldtorocksinatossingsea。Wedonotthinkverymuchoftheminthesummertimeoflife。
Theydonotflatterusorgushoverus。Theydonotalwaysagreewithus。Theyarenotalwaysthemostdelightfulsociety,byanymeans。
Theyarenotgoodtalkers,nor——whichwoulddojustaswell,perhapsbetter——dotheymakeenrapturedlisteners。Theyhaveawkwardmanners,andverylittletact。Theydonotshinetoadvantagebesideoursocietyfriends。Theydonotdresswell;theylookaltogethersomewhatdowdyandcommonplace。Wealmosthopetheywillnotseeuswhenwemeetthemjustoutsidetheclub。Theyarenotthesortofpeoplewewanttoostentatiouslygreetincrowdedplaces。Itisnottillthedaysofourneedthatwelearntoloveandknowthem。Itisnottillthewinterthatthebirdsseethewisdomofbuildingtheirnestsintheevergreentrees。
Andwe,inourspring—timefollyofyouth,passthembywithasneer,theuninteresting,colorlessevergreens,and,likesillychildrenwithnothingbuteyesintheirheads,stretchoutourhandsandcryfortheprettyflowers。Wewillmakeourlittlegardenoflifesuchacharming,fairy—likespot,theenvyofeverypasser—by!Thereshallnothinggrowinitbutliliesandroses,andthecottagewewillcoveralloverwithVirginia—creeper。And,oh,howsweetitwilllook,underthedancingsummersun—light,whenthesoftwestbreezeisblowing!
And,oh,howweshallstandandshivertherewhentherainandtheeastwindcome!
Oh,youfoolish,foolishlittlemaidens,withyourdaintyheadssofullofunwisdom!howoften——oh!howoften,areyoutobewarnedthatitisnotalwaysthesweetestthinginloversthatisthebestmaterialtomakeagood—wearinghusbandoutof?\"Theloversighinglikeafurnace\"willnotgoonsighinglikeafurnaceforever。Thatfurnacewillgoout。Hewillbecomethehusband,\"fullofstrangeoaths——jealousinhonor,suddenandquickinquarrel,\"andgrow\"intotheleanandslipper’dpantaloon。\"Howwillhewear?Therewillbenochanginghimifhedoesnotsuit,nosendinghimbacktobealtered,nohavinghimletoutabitwhereheistootightandhurtsyou,nohavinghimtakeninwhereheistooloose,nolayinghimbywhenthecoldcomes,towrapyourselfupinsomethingwarmer。Asheiswhenyouselecthim,sohewillhavetolastyouallyourlife——throughallchanges,throughallseasons。
Yes,helooksveryprettynow——handsomepattern,ifthecolorsarefastanditdoesnotfade——feelssoftandwarmtothetouch。Howwillhestandtheworld’sroughweather?Howwillhestandlife’swearandtear?
Helookssomanlyandbrave。Hishaircurlssodivinely。Hedressessowell(Iwonderifthetailor’sbillispaid?)Hekissesyourhandsogracefully。Hecallsyousuchprettynames。Hisarmfeelssostrongaroundyou。Hisfineeyesaresofulloftendernessastheygazedownintoyours。
Willhekissyourhandwhenitiswrinkledandold?Willhecallyouprettynameswhenthebabyiscryinginthenight,andyoucannotkeepitquiet——or,betterstill,willhesitupandtakeaturnwithit?
Willhisarmbestrongaroundyouinthedaysoftrouble?Willhiseyesshineaboveyoufulloftendernesswhenyoursaregrowingdim?
Andyouboys,yousillyboys!whatmaterialsforawifedoyouthinkyouwillgetoutoftheempty—headedcoquettesyouareravingandtearingyourhairabout。Oh!yes,sheisveryhandsome,andshedresseswithexquisitetaste(theresultofdevotingthewholeofherheart,mindandsoultothesubject,andneverallowingherthoughtstobedistractedfromitbyanyothermundaneorcelestialobjectwhatsoever);andsheisveryagreeableandentertainingandfascinating;andshewillgoonlookinghandsome,anddressingexquisitely,andbeingagreeableandentertainingandfascinatingjustasmuchafteryouhavemarriedherasbefore——moreso,ifanything。
But_you_willnotgetthebenefitofit。Husbandswillbecharmedandfascinatedbyherinplenty,but_you_willnotbeamongthem。
Youwillruntheshow,youwillpayalltheexpenses,doallthework。
Yourperformingladywillbemostaffableandenchantingtothecrowd。
Theywillstareather,andadmireher,andtalktoher,andflirtwithher。Andyouwillbeabletofeelthatyouarequiteabenefactortoyourfellow—menandwomen——toyourfellow—menespecially——inprovidingsuchdelightfulamusementforthem,free。
But_you_willnotgetanyofthefunyourself。
Youwillnotgetthehandsomelooks。_You_willgetthejadedface,andthedull,lusterlesseyes,andtheuntidyhairwiththedyeshowingonit。Youwillnotgettheexquisitedresses。_You_willgetdirty,shabbyfrocksandslommickingdressing—gowns,suchasyourcookwouldbeashamedtowear。_You_willnotgetthecharmandfascination。_You_willgettheafter—headaches,thecomplainingsandgrumblings,thesilenceandsulkiness,thewearinessandlassitudeandill—temperthatcomesassuchareliefafterworkinghardalldayatbeingpleasant!
Itisnotthepeoplewhoshineinsociety,butthepeoplewhobrightenupthebackparlor;notthepeoplewhoarecharmingwhentheyareout,butthepeoplewhoarecharmingwhentheyarein,thataregoodto_live_with。Itisnotthebrilliantmenandwomen,butthesimple,strong,restfulmenandwomen,thatmakethebesttravelingcompanionsfortheroadoflife。Themenandwomenwhowillonlylaughastheyputuptheumbrellawhentherainbeginstofall,whowilltrudgealongcheerfullythroughthemudandoverthestonyplaces——thecomradeswhowilllaytheirfirmhandonoursandstrengthenuswhenthewayisdarkandwearegrowingweak——theevergreenmenandwomen,who,liketheholly,areattheirbrightestandbestwhentheblastblowschilliest——thestanchmenandwomen!
Itisagrandthingthisstanchness。Itisthedifferencebetweenadogandasheep——betweenamanandanoyster。
Women,asarule,arestancherthanmen。Therearewomenthatyoufeelyoucouldrelyupontothedeath。Butveryfewmenindeedhavethisdog—likevirtue。Men,takingthemgenerally,aremorelikecats。
Youmaylivewiththemandcallthemyoursfortwentyyears,butyoucanneverfeel_quite_sureofthem。Youneverknowexactlywhattheyarethinkingof。Youneverfeeleasyinyourmindastotheresultofthenext—doorneighbor’slayingdownaBrusselscarpetinhiskitchen。
Wehavenoschoolfortheturning—outofstanchmeninthisnineteenthcentury。Intheold,earnesttimes,warmademenstanchandtruetoeachother。Wehavelearnedupagoodmanyglibphrasesaboutthewickednessofwar,andwethankGodthatweliveinthesepeaceful,tradingtimes,whereinwecan——anddo——devotethewholeofourthoughtsandenergiestorobbingandcheatingandswindlingoneanother——to\"doing\"ourfriends,andovercomingourenemiesbytrickeryandlies——wherein,undisturbedbythewickedwaysoffighting—men,wecancultivatetobetterperfectionthe\"smartness,\"
thecraft,andthecunning,andalltheother\"business—like\"virtuesonwhichwesoprideourselves,andwhichweresoneglectedandtreatedwithsolittlerespectinthebadoldageofviolence,whenmenchoselionsandeaglesfortheirsymbolsratherthanfoxes。
Thereisagooddealtobesaidagainstwar。Iamnotpreparedtomaintainthatwardidnotbringwithitdisadvantages,buttherecanbenodoubtthat,forthenoblestworkofNature——themakingofmen——itwasasplendidmanufactory。Ittaughtmencourage。Ittrainedtheminpromptnessanddetermination,instrengthofbrainandstrengthofhand。Fromitssternlessonstheylearnedfortitudeinsuffering,coolnessindanger,cheerfulnessunderreverses。Chivalry,Reverence,andLoyaltyarethebeautifulchildrenofuglyWar。But,aboveallgifts,thegreatestgiftitgavetomenwasstanchness。
Itfirsttaughtmentobetruetooneanother;tobetruetotheirduty,truetotheirpost;tobeinallthingsfaithful,evenuntodeath。
Themartyrsthatdiedatthestake;theexplorersthatfoughtwithNatureandopeneduptheworldforus;thereformers(theyhadtodosomethingmorethantalkinthosedays)whowonforusourliberties;
themenwhogavetheirlivestoscienceandart,whenscienceandartbrought,notasnow,fameandfortune,butshameandpenury——theysprangfromtheloinsoftheruggedmenwhohadlearned,onmanyagrimbattlefield,tolaughatpainanddeath,whohadhadithammeredintothem,withmanyahardblow,thatthewholedutyofamaninthisworldistobetruetohistrust,andfearnot。
DoyourememberthestoryoftheoldVikingwhohadbeenconvertedtoChristianity,andwho,justastheywereabout,withmuchjoy,tobaptizehim,pausedandasked:\"Butwhat——ifthis,asyoutellme,istheonlywaytothetrueValhalla——whathasbecomeofmycomrades,myfriendswhoaredead,whodiedintheoldfaith——wherearethey?\"
Thepriests,confused,repliedtherecouldbenodoubtthoseunfortunatefolkhadgonetoaplacetheywouldrathernotmention。
\"Then,\"saidtheoldwarrior,steppingback,\"Iwillnotbebaptized。
Iwillgoalongwithmyownpeople。\"
Hehadlivedwiththem,foughtbesidethem;theywerehispeople。Hewouldstandbythemtotheend——ofeternity。Mostassuredly,averyshockingoldViking!ButIthinkitmightbeworthwhilegivingupourcivilizationandourculturetogetbacktothedayswhentheymademenlikethat。
Theonlyreminderofsuchtimesthatwehaveleftusnow,isthebull—dog;andheisfastdyingout——thepityofit!Whatasplendidolddogheis!sogrim,sosilent,sostanch;soterrible,whenhehasgothisidea,ofhisdutyclearbeforehim;soabsurdlymeek,whenitisonlyhimselfthatisconcerned。
Heisthegentlest,too,andthemostlovableofalldogs。Hedoesnotlookit。Thesweetnessofhisdispositionwouldnotstrikethecasualobserveratfirstglance。Heresemblesthegentlemanspokenofintheoft—quotedstanza:
’E’sallrightwhenyerknows’im。
Butyer’vegottoknow’imfust。
ThefirsttimeIevermetabull—dog——tospeakto,thatis——wasmanyyearsago。Wewerelodgingdowninthecountry,anorphanfriendofminenamedGeorge,andmyself,andonenight,cominghomelatefromsomedissolvingviewswefoundthefamilyhadgonetobed。Theyhadleftalightinourroom,however,andwewentinandsatdown,andbegantotakeoffourboots。
Andthen,forthefirsttime,wenoticedonthehearthrugabull—dog。
Adogwithamorethoughtfullyferociousexpression——adogwith,apparently,aheartmoredeadtoallennoblingandcivilizingsentiments——Ihaveneverseen。AsGeorgesaid,helookedmorelikesomeheathenidolthanahappyEnglishdog。
Heappearedtohavebeenwaitingforus;andheroseupandgreeteduswithaghastlygrin,andgotbetweenusandthedoor。
Wesmiledathim——asickly,propitiatorysmile。Wesaid,\"Gooddog——poorfellow!\"andweaskedhim,intonesimplyingthatthequestioncouldadmitofnonegative,ifhewasnota\"niceoldchap。\"
Wedidnotreallythinkso。Wehadourownprivateopinionconcerninghim,anditwasunfavorable。Butwedidnotexpressit。Wewouldnothavehurthisfeelingsfortheworld。Hewasavisitor,ourguest,sotospeak——and,aswell—brought—upyoungmen,wefeltthattherightthingtodowasforustopreventhisgaininganyhintthatwewerenotgladtoseehim,andtomakehimfeelaslittleaspossibletheawkwardnessofhisposition。
Ithinkwesucceeded。Hewassingularlyunembarrassed,andfarmoreathiseasethanevenwewere。Hetookbutlittlenoticeofourflatteringremarks,butwasmuchdrawntowardGeorge’slegs。Georgeusedtobe,Iremember,ratherproudofhislegs。IcouldneverseeenoughinthemmyselftoexcuseGeorge’svanity;indeed,theyalwaysstruckmeaslumpy。Itisonlyfairtoacknowledge,however,thattheyquitefascinatedthatbull—dog。Hewalkedoverandcriticizedthemwiththeairofalong—baffledconnoisseurwhohadatlastfoundhisideal。Attheterminationofhisinspectionhedistinctlysmiled。
George,whoatthattimewasmodestandbashful,blushedanddrewthemupontothechair。Onthedog’sdisplayingadesiretofollowthem,Georgemovedupontothetable,andsquattedthereinthemiddle,nursinghisknees。George’slegsbeinglosttohim,thedogappearedinclinedtoconsolehimselfwithmine。IwentandsatbesideGeorgeonthetable。
Sittingwithyourfeetdrawnupinfrontofyou,onasmallandricketyone—leggedtable,isamosttryingexercise,especiallyifyouarenotusedtoit。GeorgeandIbothfeltourpositionkeenly。Wedidnotliketocalloutforhelp,andbringthefamilydown。Wewereproudyoungmen,andwefearedlest,totheunsympatheticeyeofthecomparativestranger,thespectacleweshouldpresentmightnotproveimposing。
Wesatoninsilenceforabouthalfanhour,thedogkeepingareproachfuleyeuponusfromthenearestchair,anddisplayingelephantinedelightwheneverwemadeanymovementsuggestiveofclimbingdown。